Delivering a baby is not a fun game. Having gone though it once I know the pain (both physical and mental) a lady goes through. The battle in a labor room lasts for nearly 12-18 hours and we come out totally drained, still trying to get used to the sagging stomach, pain from the stitches and moreover longing to hold the life you just created! When your only wish is for a quiet time, you see the tug of war between the crowd in the room to hold the baby, the endless suggestions as to how to wrap the baby to how to hold him and you sit there watching helplessly. Once the crowd subsides, the focus comes to the new mom as well, what to eat what not to eat, how to feed the baby, how to put him to sleep and so on. That was the evening that really changed me, from a helpless mom to a fiery mamma and we (my husband and I) decided we would never let the world decide how to bring up our baby. 18 months since and the number of suggestions and concerns and advice has only gone up and we have decided to respond only with a smile and not to follow anything that we don't believe in, So here are a few lessons learnt, 18 months so far and we know we are doing it right :)
Well-Wisher: Now that you got a baby boy in the first try, you wouldn't have to worry and pray to get a boy child when you get pregnant next. You already have a boy in the family!
Me: Thanks for your help with our family planning.
Me: Thanks for your help with our family planning.
Well-wisher: The baby did not get his dad's fair complexion!
Me: May be we will have a moment of silence for the loss of "fair-skin" legacy :)
Me: May be we will have a moment of silence for the loss of "fair-skin" legacy :)
Well-wisher: Oh my god! Baby has lost so much weight, he has grown so thin!
Me: Yes, we are undergoing a diet plan to lose weight and the results are showing well on him :D
Me: Yes, we are undergoing a diet plan to lose weight and the results are showing well on him :D
Well-wisher (at each stage of baby's life): You are yet to see the real difficulties of parenting, he is going to be a lot more troublesome as he gets old.
Me: I am tired of listening to this threat from the time he was born. To be honest I have felt things getting easier as baby grows..from a baby bag full of sterilised bottles, boiled water, lactogen, diapers, extra clothes, flannel etc. to just a sippy cup of water and a fruit..from a delicate helpless life to an independent toddler (yes he thinks he is capable of taking care of me by now;)). May be it is how we look at things and anticipating a trouble loaded tomorrow is never going to help, trust me.
Me: I am tired of listening to this threat from the time he was born. To be honest I have felt things getting easier as baby grows..from a baby bag full of sterilised bottles, boiled water, lactogen, diapers, extra clothes, flannel etc. to just a sippy cup of water and a fruit..from a delicate helpless life to an independent toddler (yes he thinks he is capable of taking care of me by now;)). May be it is how we look at things and anticipating a trouble loaded tomorrow is never going to help, trust me.
Well-wisher: He is seeing only his dad and mom all the time, that's why he is not very social.
Me: Oh yes, we are planning to rent people to run around the house, probably that would make him more social as you label!
Me: Oh yes, we are planning to rent people to run around the house, probably that would make him more social as you label!
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